Okay Mrs.Nop, blackfoot, what I meant by "civil disobedience" was more related to your suggestion of how to react when she criticizes my method of washing the floor, and ignoring her when she makes an attempt to get me "tied up with her tar baby." (I like that metaphor, btw).

But I see the possibility of practicing "radical honesty", too. Unfortunately, and here is where the enmeshment aspect pops up, I don't think she's really ready for it. Of course, I don't know if she'll ever be ready for it, until she's ready to look at herself with honesty. If that's the case, what will radical honesty get me? I suppose it will boost my personal integrity quotient. It also may lead to a few days of the "silent treatment", which is really not a big deal for me. Having endured it before, it doesn't strike fear in my heart--it's more, uh, annoying, than anything else.

So, this "radical honesty" stuff, how does one go about faking it? Actually, I want to understand what you mean, specifically, by this phrase. Is it along the lines of some of the suggestions you had, blackfoot:
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Why do I have to initiate? If you dont enjoy sex enough to initiate it, I understand. Its not really that enjoyable for me anymore either.' 'Maybe if you said something nice once in a while, or appreciated some of the things I do, I would think you cared enough for me to want to have sex with you.' 'well when you are ready to communicate about this, and show some consideration, and compromise, act like a woman, instead of a general ordering the troops around, then maybe we will have sex again. Untill then... <shrug>.'

Or are we talking about something else? Because, man, you nailed it with each one of those comments. Sex isn't very enjoyable for me anymore. I do feel almost constantly criticized, and I do feel as if she's ordering me around.

Thanks for all the comments, by everyone. And, if you don't catch all the lyrics from the youtube clip, go here.

Yeah...I'll be humming this one, "Now I hope you don't get mad at me
But I told Nate you was a freak
He said he wants a slut, hope you don't mind
I told him how you like it from behind." Yeah...catchy.

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