Hairy,
I gotta say, that I'm with GEL on this. Your current approach obviously isn't working, so try something else. I think MrsHD was attempting to give you the operating manual (although admittedly very very vague, but that doesn't matter because you refuse to read it because it isn't how you thought it was supposed to work), and IMHO a very strong indication that she's missing your attention. You previously mentioned that she got turned on watching some movie with Marines that just took what they wanted. From the sidelines here in the nosebleed section of the peanut gallery, it looks a lot like she wants to be aggressively taken by someone who isn't going to take no for an answer and is not at all tentative about his approach. Have you asked her at all about her sexual fantasies? (yeah, yeah, I know, if she's not at a level of intimate communication with you, she'd probably say something like she doesn't have any, but that's a lie).

Time to break out your Mom's styrofoam mannequin and practice your throwdown and ravage routine. Of course, you'll first have to hollow out the mannequin and fill it with a ton of fishing sinkers so that you condition yourself to avoid a hernia Oh, and tell her to lay off the frickin bon-bons .

Go take what you want, my friend. If she balks, then you are still being too much a pansy about it. Darnit, if she says no, then b'gosh that's what bed posts and rope are for