Ready to live together again, but

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Makes one wonder if they love you at all or are just going through the motions for whatever reason. If they don't love you or want to be with you, why can't they just tell you? Would make life so much simpler. Or, maybe they do love you, yet they are so lost or confused that they are just unable to.

I'd thought about that one for a while, (specially since he got into a huge debt that now I'm also helping pay) if he is just playing me, but I know with that kind of attitude we wont' stand a a chance so I have to trust him.
You can corner them and ask them point blank, and destroy all the good work that took months. No, they just aren't ready, I've learned here that love isnt' an emotion, it is a decision and they are still out of sorts, still remember the bad parts of the marriage, and only time and our good attitude will help.

I do hurt often, would love to have him caressing me or tell me ILY (I honestly dont' remember the last time I heard those words, last summer?)
But I know that we are moving forward, slowly but we are working on us.

Hey 26Wnow, I so understand what you mean, now that she is gone you want to show her how much she means to you (my sitch is similar to yours, he iniciated, then a few months before he left he stopped coming to me)
My H needed at least 5mths for the anger/blame phase to go away, so your W might still be there. It was awful the first months after my H lelft, he barely looked at me, the same man who adored me and bought me the prettiest gifts and sweeted cards looked at me like I had the plague.
My prayers your way 26))))))))))))