This thread really catches my attention. I am currently separated from my W as of 4/4/06. I wont go into big detail, my sitch is there if you want to look at it, but Cat she told me the same thing. I dont hate you but....Now my W was always very affectionate physically. Lots of little hugs, touches, squeezes, kisses, etc. She would frequently initiate sex. I was more distant and less physical in that manner. Not that I didnt want it, just that it is not in my nature to display in that manner I guess. About a year or two ago when we started having real problems she became a lot cooler and then finally froze. She would not refuse physical contact but niether would she initiate it anymore. Now we are communicating but while she acts in every other respect as if we were still together, she maintains the physical standoffishness. Now of course, I want nothing more than to have her respond or initiate that.
We have been married going on 27 years so it is not as if the infatuation just disipated. I am very happy that both of you are at least back with your spouse and able to try to deal with these issues. I am trying desparately to get to the point where I can return and work on these things. I dont know if that will happen. Anyway, if you havent yet, do a search for COG. He went through better than 3 years of getting back with his wife and finally made it recently. I know that the physical aspect played heavily in his sitch and still does I think. He is an avid poster and writes with passion and clarity so it is a good read. Like a nice book. Check him out and maybe you could gain a little insight from him for your situations. In the mean time.....wish me luck. God bless you both.
