Does he have amicable attitude and others find him approachable?
Does he understand that others can be stressed?
If he has good dealings w his co-workers then he probably is already good at negoitating to attain compromise.
He would just respectfully extend that to his son.
The trick is for the father to understand that the way he was treated may have been the "right" way for his foster parents to deal w offspring. It wasn't right for him though. Now he has a son. He can consciously choose to alter behavior pattern so that he can "be happy (in father/son R) instead of "right" (the way he himself was raised).
