I think it was very good that your D said ". . .and ruin MY weekend". She kept it between the two of them. No way could you be called as being manipulative or controlling.
I plan to order Michelle's book about getting your H to do what you want. I must have been doing it wrong for years and want to correct my bad interpersonal habits. Maybe this book will guide me.
My H loves our 22 year old D so much. She gives him a great deal of credit for preparing her 'to take on the world'. Theirs is a huge emotional rift. I hope they will be able to bridge.
Something for you to think about for the future. How was your Hs dad w him, discipline wise? He will probably react to disciplinary stuff the same way his father did.
Our C suggested that my H 'not be his father' when dealing w our Son but rather try negoitating with him. She told him flat out that he'd been behaving as a teenager (MLC factor/affair/etc) and it would be difficult for our young male to accept his authority. At 17, our S is entering the phase where he will want to challenge the alpha male. H refuses to abdicate (that's how he phrased it in C session). That was when C said that negoitiation was the way for him to succeed w son.
