My kids are being stubborn. Just yesterday D told her dad to stop acting like a child (he was verbally rude to her). Not gonna work, sweetie.
I have to find a moment where I can approach them and remind them that the three of them are all respondees to 'words of affirmation'.
With the daughter I will ask her to think how best someone could reach her in a conflict situation. Would calling her a child because of her behavior pull her back or push her away.
With Son I have to remind him that if I tell him to do something he always says, "ask me, mom, don't tell me". His dad is the same.
Our C told me once that the children deserve a relationship w their dad. She told me that I am not to be the bridge.
Your blessed children are beginning their bridges to their dad. He is responding.
Later, our C told me that it's okay for me to be "the family's bridge". Afterall, I am the historian and can supply missing bits of info in various situations. Also, the mom is the "keeper of the family rituals" like how christmas is celebrated and faviote family recipes and so many other little rituals of family unity.
