I was on the path to be just like your H except our 3 S were much younger as was I when my W straightened me out. H sounds very driven yet very unhappy so it will be difficult. Try this, don't just tell H he is hurting you and kids give him some solutions. That is what my W did for me. She flat told me how I should have reacted to a given sitch with the kids. Seems silly but that is what it took. I was offended at first but then tried it and it worked. I felt like an ass but it saved my M and my R with 3 of the greatest little boys in the world. ALERT: Men are dense and need step by step instruction with relationships. Your H anger may make this difficult but do what you can. Also explain that it isn't very rewarding to have children that will grow up to hate you. That is a paraphrase of what my W said to get it through mu dense skull. Good luck and keep after him with solutions. Not for his sake but for your kids. It will be easier if you are doing it for the kids.
