I agree with the others that said that your H sounds depressed. Encourage him to see his doctor for a check-up. Tell him you're worried about him and the stress he's been under with his job. H may be told he needs medication and counseling.
I encourage you to think everyday about these two words: self care. Find some ways to help you deal with all your stress. Do something everyday to take care of you: body, mind, and spirit. Eat well, exercise, and enjoy something to soothe your soul - read, journal, garden, listen to music, whatever "does it" for you.
The only other suggestion I have for you is to let your H know when you are feeling happy and to tell him things you would like to do together that would make you happy. i.e., "It would really make me happy if" - you'd sit on the porch with me for 10 minutes and hold my hand. or, we went for a walk, or a bike ride, or out for ice cream, or whatever little things come to mind. Maybe he'd feel more successful as a person if he felt more successful as a H. Ask yourself each day, what small thing can I do today to help move me closer to H?
There's also a book I have that's very good - The Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian. The book has helped me a great deal.
