Thank you very much for your responses. I think I need to clarify the situation. My thread has been long gone, so there's nothing for me to link to for background information. Basically, he told me he was miserable last summer. I think I steered that conversation to where it went. He started off just telling me he was miserable and I kept pushing, "It must be about me." That's beside the point. He never moved out, but did spend an awful lot of time sleeping when he was home. He started sleeping with his clothes on. Our conversations were limited to "How was your day." I very quickly found this website and ordered DB, DR and Getting Through. In the process I recognized my own contributions to our problems and made some real changes in my behavior. Things finally started turning around. For Christmas he gave me a card that said "We've had a rough year but we managed to keep our heads above our doubts."

I know better than to have more than one thread, but I went ahead and posted in Newcomers Monday night because I used to get a better response there. Anyway, here's the thread I Really Need Some Help!!!! PMA at all time low! I started over there and it's more in depth than over here because I had a quicker response.

I've also had a session with my counselor (the first since November). Basically, she said that I am way off on the stress charts with a move, job change, and some other family issues. My marriage, in her opinion, is fine.

Yes, H is depressed right now. I suppose the ultimate question is what he wants out of life because there's no tangible reason for him to feel this way. But that's beside the point. I'm working on detaching myself from his moods and not taking everything so personally. He told me the other night that he knows he's not the easiest person to live with, and that sometimes he's angry--sometimes at me and sometimes at other people/things. C told me I need to ask him to let me know the difference.

I'm sure that this is all normal, and the stressors we have going on are really a large part of what's going on.