What you are saying sounds pretty accurate. My first posts on this BB referenced her MLC. That is definitely the core of our problem. The good news is I think she is starting to pull out of it, slowly. A good friend of mine made the same comment about standing back and watching the show. It has definitely been a soap opera. I will venture a little more often over to the MLC board. I have tried to stay away from the MLC and Infidelity board because they make my mind race and I start to project future problems too much. Pretty silly, huh. Anyway, she is definitely showing signs of "trying". She lets me know her schedule, doesn't "go out", spends much less time on the computer, and is contributing at home.
I was very aggressive with telling her what she was doing was unacceptable. At first, that just increased her lying but then I would expose the lies and "out" her activities again. That made things hard for a while but I could not stand by and let these things happen. I finally told her that if she is going to act like this that she can't do it in this house. That slowed down her behavior considerably. She told a friend of ours that I love her too much to throw her out. My actions blew that theory of hers. My aggressiveness stopped things for a while but she hadn't gotten it fully out of her system. At least we were at a point where we could talk to it. 2 months into the "talking" stage she is daily making positive comments about the R and her actions are positive as well.
I confronted her several times but I also worked on my behaviors and my physical attractiveness. She was trying to meet these "models" on a singles site so I knew what I was competeing with. What male model needs a singles site to get women? I was a model and certainly didn't need any help. I also told my W that I was going to start modeling again to "find myself". She didn't like that idea at all. Hey, fight fire with fire.
Thanks for stopping in Joe. I will take all the advice I can get. I need to start a new thread soon so stop in on that one too.
