Michelle makes a good connection between WAW's and mid life crisis. Have you read much about MLC? Since our situations are so similiar, i want to point out some things that may help you, I hope. 99% of what you have explained about your W actions and statements are poster child MLC. I hate the term MLC and find "life transition" to be much more suitable. Whatever you want to call it. Women in their 30's commonly go through it. Was your W a rebel in her youth? Did she have strict parents? My guess would be yes. Learn more about MLC and you'll understand more about your W's actions. The best advise ive recieved is from Isle Guy on the MLC board, he said.... "pull up a seat, sit down and watch the show, or better yet, ignore the show"
The sooner you give her full control, the sooner she will realize that she is not battling with you, she's battling with herself. Only then can she make some progress.
DB hardly works with people in MLC, thats why its so frustrating, you have to wait til they come out of it.
Take yourself out of the situation and watch her battle herself, shes feeling alot more pain than she's letting on to and when you become a safe person to talk with, she'll talk the truth to you, but not before she's ready, and you cant speed it up.
I could go on and on man.
All that said, youre doing a great job.
If you find any of this to be true for your sit, go to the MLC board and talk with Isle Guy, he's a pro in this arena.
