IWB - I don't think you can move her along to do anything or to avoid anything. Whatever the email said has caused some shock right now to her system. It'll be up to her to determine how her relationship will continue with her sister.

I'm sorry you had to read things that hurt you even more. I'm proud that you are able to still stand by her. I wouldn't try to protect her from these hurts tho. She can't heal if she doesn't face them. You won't look any better to her one way or the other. I know my H has been dealing with some ugly stuff - sure doesn't make him want to come to me to help or hold or whatever. The whole ball game is in their lap IWB - but I think you know that deep down inside.

Remember what happened the last time. She came to you for help - you helped her thru her hurt - then she dumped on you again. I think you can count on that pattern til she totally gets thru all this crap.

I'm sorry. Keep doing what you have been doing. Standing by yet focusing on working on you and detaching. This is where you will learn to be strong.

hugs to you friend

brue

I'm alive, I'm happy - why shouldn't I tell the world I've got my head screwed back on just fine.
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