thank you all for your comments. It is so incredibly hard to stay focused while in such pain. I have written goals that I would like for my perfect marriage and will next be breaking them down into small pieces to see what things would be happening if I was working towards these. Here is my question. do I share these with H? or do i just keep them to myself right now and work on my own without his knowledge? How do I know when to include him in my goals for our future? How do I do this without doing R talk?
