Grasshopper's message is right on. So, here's my addendum to his wise words: You need to decide if you want to work on saving your marriage, or if you want to be "right". If you focus on being "right" and making your H "wrong", you will for sure end up with a D. It is true, some of the things your H has done, including the A, and lying, are "wrong". But H is a big boy. Let him sort through that and find his values once again. Meanwhile, when you were a young newly-wed, what were your hopes and dreams? Who did you say you were going to be? Are you being the best you can be right now? Start with your focus on YOU. Move your work, your attention, to YOU. That is where the juice is in all this, and where possibilities and miracles can occur. The insight about who you have been being, will start the real promise of a new day. I promise
PositivelyListening ************************************** When one door of happiness closes, another one opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. - Helen Keller
