Here is my sitch--My H (45) of 24 years started an emotional affair in February. By the end of May he admitted in March it became a physical affair and he is in love. He does not think we are compatible and we should probably not stay married. We have 2 children ages 20 and 15. His OW is 8 years younger married with 3 children. Her husband does not want a divorce and wants to work on their marriage. H has started counseling 3 weeks ago. He says he will not do couples therapy but will work on himself to see if he can figure out what will make him happy. He is still in the house. I gave him my marriage boundaries and said I could not accept him contacting OW without me being present. Now I have found out the OW called his phone just his week and he also called her. I do not know if they spoke although I assume so. He is lieing to me and that hurts so much. He said he has not contacted her and their is not communication. do I just ignore this lying and wait to see what happens? I am working on my 180's. I just have such a hard time not knowing the truth. do I just wait to see what counseling will bring to him?
