Hi Tbone and everyone else,

I've been following your sitch very closely. Many similarities to mine (which I just posted.) I feel for ya and agree with much of Andy's responses.

One thing tho - its not so much as accepting her behavior as it is backing off and distancing yourself from it. She sees nothing wrong with what see does and you have no control over that right now. Basically, she wants the cake & eat it too! My W went as far as to tell me several times she didn't want to stop R with OM until she finds out if it would lead to something more!!! [Mad] (Tough time swallowing that one...)

Just back off, keep your distance, but be polite about the sitch and continue DBing with 180's and AS-IF with determination. She will continue to notice the changes in you. My W recently told me, she just got to tire of continuing to resist the changes that I made then she just gave in, step back and started to look back my way in earnst. After a week, she decided she like what she saw and she choose to recommit to the M.

'til later,
KAW