I am a little argumentative today so bear with me. I am supposed to "accept" her "dates" with other guys. She wouldn't "accept" that from me. What makes her so special that she can disrespect our M like this? She wants everything we have:kids,house,toys,romance,laughs,passion. The only thing I don't and won't provide her is a free pass to try and kill our M. I told her last night that she is in total control. "Stop dating and spending and your problem will go away." Her problem with me is my non-acceptance of her behavior. The only way to pull out of this circle is accept what she is doing. Who out there thinks acceptance will make her behavior will stop and who thinks it will get worse? I need mental strength that I don't have yet.
Andy, Thanks for all of your quick responses to my crisis. I need to follow your advice about behavior dictating feelings. I keep doing that backwards.
