She seeking some sort of escape with the e-mail thing but she has also met most of these people. She claims to be trying to find herself and no one has ever let her do that. I flat asked her what she would do in my shoes. She didn't know but thought that my not snooping (knowing the truth) had been a pretty good run in OR. Of course it was because you could live in your little fantasy world and still have me to come home to. I'd love to be able to do what I want with no responsibilites or consequences. I asked her again to stop lying and she said something about not asking. She won't stop and that leaves me to do the following:

1) Act as if
2) Enjoy our good times together
3) Let her pursue "herself"(new relationship)
4) Find myself back
5) Don't count on her long term

or

Actually give her some consequences

We had several OR today. She says I need to be patient, don't expect the truth, don't expect any change.

What I don't really understand is how she can act so happy with me and live this other life unless it is as harmless as she says. That or she is psychotic. The only time we have intense discussions is when I bring up her spending or lying. She sees no problem with her lying. That is what my friend sees as her character flaw which will never allow me peace as long as I am with her. I need honesty in OR and she can't give it. I am going to nominate her for an Oscar.

[Confused] [Confused]

TBONE