I see death and severe marital problems as reality checks. Sometimes it takes a "crisis" before people get their priorities straightened out. People will "behave" for a while and then stray again. I was an athlete and that taught me that it takes consistent practice to be really good at something. I am regaining my faith by reading the bible consistently. We as humans need consistent reminders of what we need to do. A marriage can't be in crisis all of the time because the participants would go insane. The message I want to send in our class is "working" at a R means reading books, thinking about the others needs, attending marriage retreats, etc. These would be good consistent reminders of what to do in a R. The other way I would define "work" in a relationship is determination. Determination to do whatever it takes to keep your marriage together. I think that is why most of us are here.
More great teamwork at home last night. The boys now have a swing set and the fort should be finished tonight (weather permitting). My W helped me move the swing set into place and once again her strength amazed me. I built it on the garage approach to keep everything level and then we carried it 100 feet to the play area. My W even mowed the lawn for the first time in 2 years. She thought it was a good workout and wants to do it more often. This is great except she was a little hard on the mower. She wants me to show her how to run the trimmer and brush cutter too. Can you say transformation? Anyway, life is good!
