I have to share another laugh with you, tbone.

Your take on cookie cutter DBing is diametrically opposed to mine. This fact really illustrates the dangers of blindly following what your concept, or more particularly of other people’s concept of what DBing is.

In my sit, W felt like a doormat. To this day, I don’t understand why. Pre-bomb, she always said that we cooperated so very well. Everyone who knew us agreed. Imagine my surprise when she called me controlling!

So. From the get-go, I decided to become (in actions) the H and father that I always thought I was.

When I posted this, many wise DBers thought I was being a doormat. Conventional (cookie cutter?) DBing would seem to dictate that I concentrate on myself. Forget about W and work on being a happy person with or without her.

D’ya think that would have worked?

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Originally posted by Mick May 23, 2002 10:31 PM on wise---from JJ re: LRT --must read [Smile] (Page 4):

I don't know why, but it seems when you read the book you want to immediately leap to the LRT. Desparation I suppose. But in so many sitches, LRT is more of the same. LRT is the epitome of ignoring you spouse,

Is it?...certainly not my undersatnding of LRT.
I dont see "ignore your spouse" wriiten about in the context of LRT in DB.
Incidentally, when I expounded on my ideas of changing my behavior to match my self-image, Mick accused me of “some great original thought.” [Wink]

So. Are we really renegades? Perhaps we just have a different perception. And maybe, we have a better handle on our own sitch’s than meets the eye.

Andy