I wonder if our "renegade" DBing is why we "graduated" to this board. "Cookie cutter" DBing scared me because it seemed too much like being a "doormat" to me. I am not knocking those who are doing it that way at all. It is just that I have always been one to test limits. Absolutely nothing new here except my anxiety is getting better. Instead of expecting the R to regress I am seeing all of the progress that continues to happen. Attitude is everything. I can almost tell now by her voice and actions when she has communicated with one of her "friends". I just say to myself that she is "here" with me and we are enjoying each others' company as much as ever. They are only an issue if I revert to my destructive behaviors. Yes, it could all fall apart tomorrow but everyone can say that, not just us DBers. I am even thinking that I am about to graduate from "Piecing" to "Success stories". I may never hear her say that she has recommitted and I think the first ILY is just going to happen someday (hopefully soon). There won't be any "fireworks" or "drumrolls" it will just happen.
We did some more "family" landscaping last night, even the dog helped. I also got talked into building the kids a monster playset (swings, slide, fort, climbing wall, etc.) this weekend. The whole family unit seems to be functioning better. Thanks again to all that have helped me get this far (especially Zebra and Andy) and if I let this thread die I will still check in on the "Piecers". Have a great weekend.
