Thanks Z for the good advice. I have surrounded myself with calming, conservative influences in my business life to offset my aggressiveness and my DB friends are doing that for me with my R. Otherwise I would have continued to "cross the line" like I so often did early in the M and pushed and pushed on any issue. Great idea about the "one flesh". I sure felt that way. I think the "respect" issue is a problem for us. I have had very little respect for her in the past because of her actions and even when she improved my respect didn't. Now those tables have turned and her respect for me is slowly returning. That may even be the "key" issue in our relationship. Higher respect would probably bring the trust back to our R faster than focusing directly on the trust itself. We may be on to something here. We'll see what happens from here.
TBONE
I posted on a "newbie" thread yesterday about following what they hear on this board early and often. Easier said than done but important none the less.
