I like the idea of a "throw-away" ILY. Like Z said, if the response to that is negative, then throw it away. However, she may not "run screaming" or smile and hug. In that case, I'd just throw it in from time to time. Kinda sneak it into your sit. After a time, it'll just seem normal.
"normal" ILY's is what you're after, isn't it?
quote:Originally posted by Zebra: Keep your eyes open for baby steps, and acknowledge them -- again, in a gentle, non-commital, throwaway manner. Act as if thats just the way it is...
Keep doing that until that is the way it is.
As to your "grand scheme"... Why not? The whole DB thing boils down to trail and error, doesn't it? Try it, she may like it.
And if she doesn't, then... Oh well, won't do that again.
