We had lunch again today and I put some fresh lilacs in her bag. She likes the little things I do now. What you said is so right on. It all comes down to "fake it 'til you make it". Not a very good actor here! Working on it though. We do spend a lot of time together and it is 99% positive so I should probably just keep it up. One thing that will take a lot of work is how enthused she is to spend time with other people. She simply seems more enthused with them than me. I probably do the same thing to her and I am just more sensitive to it now. Can you tell that I think too much?
I know what you mean about the long OR talks making them go negative. After the last one I thought I blew it big time. She said some relly nasty things but I asked for it. I did make some pretty strong comments that it took her a couple of days to process and that is when she started the path back to me. I keep forgetting that this is a process.
One more thing I find odd is she doesn't seem to want to go out much. We have had opportunities and she usually wants to just stay home. I am not sure if it is because "we" would have been going out and she wants to go solo or if she truly wants to stay home. Anyway, no signs of EA's from her. She seems more comfortable, doesn't withhold info about her schedule, doesn't make excuses to go out w/o me, etc. The first week of the month tends to be a little challenging so wish me luck. I don't know if it is biological or simply coincidence because she had a hysterctomy last year. I am learning that it works to say "okay" and just walk away. See, I am not as stupid as I look.
