Good morning Tree! Hope you had a most wonderful weekend. I could really use your sage advice. I am really wanting to give up trying to get my H back.
I don't know if it is the "alien" talking or if it truly is him and that he may be a very damaged person. I read through your thread about the childhood things your H dealt with. Sounds very similar to my H's childhood. Very dysfunctional. However, we all become adults and learn to be the people we're going to be in spite of our upbringings.
In any event, my H recently pulled something that just made be so upset with him. My d was at his house for dinner and he told her and her step-sisters that things were going to get ugly between us and that he didn't love me any more. I am all that my d has (her father is non-existent) and to tell her that just upset her terribly. Now is he telling mutual acquaintenances of ours that when I left the house, I took a sledge hammer to all of the furniture he made! Not even remotely true -- I didi break a few things the day after I found out about the A/OW - but I calmed down after that and even apologized for what I had done.
Accordingly, I'm thinking things have just gone way too far to ever be repaired. hoing his best to make sure that he hurts me, makes up things to make me look bad, telling my d these things and making her feel bad -- all to make himself look better. How do you deal with this?
Coudl really use some words from you Tree. I don't know if this M is salvagable and if he's telling the kids this, he must really mean it. Why would he want to hurt them in the process of all of this?
