That's right, Duchess. It's all about what works. Finding what works is another story, isn't it! Seems like it changes all the time. Then when I decide I'm not going to worry about what is or isn't working for the time-being -- THAT works. Geeze!!
Right now the only thing that matters to me is that my H still desires me. Is his libedo lower than in the past -- perhaps. He is under a lot of stress. Remember, he hates his job. Things will probably not get completely back to "normal" until he resolves that problem. In the past year + his self-esteem has taken a beating, personally and professionally. I'm working on helping to rebuild his self-esteem on the home front, but I can't do anything about the work problem.
I'm in a pretty good place right now (hope the hormones don't kick in any time soon!!). I feel much more confident in just standing back and letting H take the time to heal himself. I still need to work on healing myself, also. There are times, though, like last night, when we are able to comfort each other for a short time that I think makes our individual healing process easier to manage.
