OK so we all agree..you back off 'cos you feel like it's the right thing for you AT THE TIME.(To me it's like putting on band aid on the hurt and exhaustion)..you back off for yourself..NOT as trickery/manipulation ya know gettin them to do what YOU want them to do.( we talked about this on my thread)
You don't have to stay backed off and Matilda certainly didn't...I am happy to say.
