Matilda..this all sounds so good..as many people on this bb know I am a propronent of backing off..giving them space.
I smothered my kids and controlled my H for so long..that I had to back off and let em breathe.
I think many DBers make the mistake of thinking that backing off is like being cold..it's not IF you can do it lovingly..and it truly is a gift to the people you love.
I think you have found the right mixture of lovingly giving him space.
