Something else that needs to be said. You like me, took unresolved issues into your marriage (being abused as a child; me being emotionally abused).
Whether we knew it or not we expected our Hs to fill a needy hole.
My H can't deal w my needs right now; it's up to me.
Rememer when we first started posting and I was encouraging you to nurture the 'little Matilda?'
Ok. Here's the change in your love for your H.
You have to love him as an adult w no little Matilda lurking in the shadows checking to make sure that she won't be hurt again. Comprendes?
This love of yours is one that contains acceptance of your H for who he is. Little Matilda's would be conditional.
In a sense it is a 'new' love. Nurture it and watch it evolve.
Matilda, even after all the crap that Sage did to us, I find that I am in love w this man. I have saved my heart. What a lovely gift. I do not love him conditionally . I just love him. I am ready to move forward in my life and that just has to draw him. There's safety in this port in the storm.
I am not going to worry whether Sage loves me. He has emotional work to do that will exhaust him. I am going to be his friend, girlfriend, and lover. Me. Nobody else.
