Matilda if there is a way for you to suggest medication for him..heres's another thought.
All of the SSRIs(Paxil, Prozac, Zoloft etc)..decrease the ability for erecton..sometimes desire is lost also.
Wellbutrin has no sexual side efects.
I know what you mean about the sex thing getting way out of control in your head.
For those of us that heave been cheated on..it's an insult."Hey I am your W..you got it on w her why not me.."..That's what I did.
Way to make a man feel like he can perform huh??
Boy was I dumb.
It doesn't sound like you are doing that Matilda. good for you not making the same mistake I did.
This is a tough time for you..try and be as upbeat as you can..fake it till you make it..if you can't make it leave the house ..get a cup of coffee..go to the bookstore or buy yourself something nice.