I've been studying Hurting Badly's threads over on MLC forum.
She furnishes a lot of what she calls 'thinking statements'.
One of them surfaced just a few minutes and I thought of you and your H.
She commented that when you learn the lessons that you need to learn then as you move forward so does your spouse. If you regress then he moves backward.
She also said that when you stop crying and grieving and being so visibly hurt then you remove your spouse's JUSTIFICATION and he is then forced to deal w his guilt head on.
This is what happened to your H, Matilda! Look at the guilt and remorse he'd show prior to your getting a handle on stuff. Then you changed and your H had to start looking INSIDE himself. Before if he could soothe you then he could put off the self examination.
Now he can't. This is when he has to really look and I think it's right on that he would question staying in the Marriage.
You love this man. This is when you want to 'live it' through your actions that you accept him as he is and not the way you want him to be. Let your love for him shine radiantly, Matilda.
