Sounds like you have the same issues as I do wrt hormones. Spouse deems it personal. Doesn't want to discuss it, and doesn't want to believe it's causing problems.
It's hard to argue, though. They could be right.
I think he can get over it, Mattie. Things are waaaaaaaaaaaaay out of whack right now, and the further out of whack things get, the harder it is to get everything back on track.
It's the mind playing tricks on us. I just posted this quote over on sweet orange's thread, but I think it applies here too:
quote:Excerpt from DivorceBusting: Research shows that individuals preferentially remember those past events and experiences which are congruent with their current moods and attitudes. For example, when depressed people are asked to reminisce about their lives, what they recall are depressing events. When elated individuals are asked to reminisce about their lives, happy experiences are recalled.
The reconstruction of one’s past involves this kind of filtering process. If I think I don’t love my spouse anymore, I recall all those experiences consistent with that feeling and forget contradictory experiences. Our memories play nasty tricks on us.
This is very similar to the quote I posted here yesterday. In sex, desire follows stimulation. WRT feeling good about oneself, acting like you're worthwhile will promote feeling worthwhile.
When things are good in the present, it sows the seeds for the future. The present becomes the past, and when you reconstruct your past with a perponderance of good memories, things are just fine!
