You know, this thread was a really good idea. And it's about the only one where I feel comfortable posting other than in my own sorry tale. Probably because here's one more place where you can ask for information rather than try to give advice.
(I'm so screwed up by my own state of affairs that I'm extremely reluctant to hazard giving advice to anyone at all, no matter how often I've read the DB book or anything else.)
Anyway, any more required reading out there? We all want to know.