What is puzzling to me is that we didn't have a problem during his A or for the first 5-6 months after he told me about it. This has just started recently. It seems to me that he's going backwards while I'm going forward.
I guess the reason I'm so calm right now is because I know there is nothing I can do to help him, except exactly what I'm doing -- just loving him and supporting him. If he can't handle what he's done, then he'll have to live with the consequences of that, and those are some pretty nasty consequences. But I am preparing myself. I intend to be happy. I hope eventually my H decides he wants to be happy, too, and we can work together towards that end. But, if not, so be it.
