Well, I found this site in Jan/06... W dropped bomb 3/29/05, changed her mind 4/2/05, changed her mind AGAIN about 4/12/05, moved out 4/26/05 OM bit the dust about the end of Jul 05 and told her it was over 8/18/05... BUT.... we were Div'd 5/19/06
Since then I have almost finished detaching and GAL, including dating a certain someone that I've seen off and on for some time although it wasn't very serious. Still isn't, but we see each other more frequently... And XW is STILL hung up on OM despite his immaturity (and hers!) He doesn't want anything to do w/ her and they don't communicate so my sources say...
C has told me that since XW dropped the bomb and moved out so fast that was just one more sign that this has less to do w/ ME than w/ her issues. So now I try not to interact more than nec. for the kids and their issues. Have not brought up US or initiated a R type talk since April. Have not tried to "fix" any of her problems, money or otherwise. I figure she has about another 6 months to go before she hits rock bottom and realizes she royally screwed up, then we'll see. And maybe I'm TOTALLY off base and she will move on just fine.... EITHER way, I'll be okay and things will be fine. I'm either rid of someone that couldn't have a real relationship, or things will be unbelievable IF we ever have another R... And for this mid 40's guy I've also had my ego boosted by being in the position of being (and wanting to!) able to TURN WOMEN down that made their intentions obvious. Pretty cool to be able to say, nah, not interested right now. 20 years ago whoda thunk?? And finally people at work have heard that I'm D'd... Someone made a smartass comment the other day about me finding out how to live in the poorhouse (he's div'd) and I said, yeah, I've got the house, the kids, my ENTIRE [401k], and she pays me CS!! Shut him up!
