I discovered my wife's affair on 5/1/06 (confronted her that night). The A has been going on, so far as I can tell, for about 10 months. I started the elements of DB, in the form of GAL (without having discovered DB) about two weeks after d-day. So, I guess I've been DB'ing... very slowly... for a little over a month. W and I still live together, with no signs of her leaving of her own accord, and no clear signs that DB'ing is having an impact on her decision to continue the A ... which is why I'm DB'ing for me, right now, and not her (or at least I try to tell myself that).
