Y'know something? Your last post tells me that you and your H have at least one goal in common. "Normalcy".
However, you have different - perhaps even diametrically opposed - methods to get there.
You say you feel better when he acts "like his old self" around you. I'd bet the farm that the converse is also true.
WHen you called him a jerk, you most certainly weren't walking on eggshells. I bet it made him feel good to hear it!
Anyway, back to methodology. I think his method (the irony is incredible here), is to act as-if there's no work to be done on your R.
My W used to want to "work" on OR. I didn't. Y'know why? Because in my mind, OR wasn't work. I loved her. I'd do anything for her. I'd bite bubbles in her bathtub.
I just couldn't get it through my thick head what she really wanted from me.
I'm rambling a bit, Matilda. Not sure if I got my point accross, but I hope so.
