Quote: You do not have time to work on yourself and stop his destructive behavior. It may take you weeks, months or even years. Meanwhile you H is getting sucked in more and more into his addiction.
Thank you for the input about my sitch. I hope you don't mind, I am going to copy and paste your post so I can keep track of it on my sitch.
This really struck me and it's one of my worst fears. By me not being able to address this am I letting him down? As much as I would like to think otherwise I have no control over his addiction. I really think all I can do at this point is to work on getting myself healthy. I pray that my H will not follow through with his fantasy of having an affair, but if he does, hopefully I will be healthy and we can get through it when/if he gains the clarity that you have now found.
If anyone has any other thoughts on how to not allow my H to fall deeper, please bring it on. I am all ears.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
