Can you afford to talk to a DB coach? Heard such positive things from others, although I did not do this myself. C I went to was based on my work's EAP alone; I did not search for a good match for my intentions of saving our M. H was always against counseling so I didn't spend the money. Wish I had done that differently.
I'm breaking my own rule and logging on from home.
Couple of things I wanted to say, still trying to decide how to answer the above questions. I think I did not do a good job of conveying what the counselor said. GH, I did not think she was attacking me at all. She mainly seemed concnered about whether or not it was comfortable for me to continue.
I do think I need to talk to her some more and ask her some more questions.
As far as calling a DB coach I did that about one year ago and was not impressed with the experience at all. Maybe I should give it another try and make sure I get someone else to talk to. I am open to trying anything.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
Glad to see you're getting some good ideas & feedback here. Why don't you bring the DB book with you to your next C session? Show it her. See if she can identify with it. That may help with things and may help decide if you want to continue with her or find someone else.
I have been coming here and typing a response every few hours for the last couple of days only to delete it. this is hard to admit, but I honestly do not know how to answer the questions you are asking me about what my counselor means. I guess because I have no idea.
May I am hopeless. i see her again on Thursday looks like I need more work than even she imagines.
As for the DB coach. I am a little reluctant to expound here, but basically I just felt much worse after talking to the person I spoke with. Maybe I should try someone else, and I would be open to doing that, but it is hard to schedule a time to call as you never know who will be around then at that time. I hope that some things a little clearer than mud.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
I hope James or someone else will jump in here and maybe somehow offer you a solution to your coach problem. I have not gone that route (would love to but the money is the issue) but from what I have seen posted here, it seems like most people get to call and talk to who they want, not just whoever is on the phones at the moment. As I said, hopefully someone who is more familiar with the process can help you.
NNP, you are not hopeless. IMO you don't establish a relationship with a counselor in one or two meetings. If you have a bad feeling about the person, don't continue. If you have a bad feeling in general, remember that the counselor isn't collecting your money just to be your cheerleader and pat you on the back. They SHOULD make you think and adjust. As for the DB coach phone session, you are not the first one to say it wasn't all it's cracked up to be. It's all opinion and perspective. Your's counts too.
How's things at home?
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
I'm sorry I did not make that clear. You don't call and get to talk to someone... you call and make an appt to call back to talk to someone. Like say I called today I may be told to call back at 4:00 pm next Monday to talk to so and so. Well first of all that is a long time to wait to speak to someone when you are distraught, and in my case, my kids or H might be around on Monday at 4:00 pm making it difficult for me to make that phone call.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
