Ok, while you ponder that, I'll post my first reaction to your post. Mind you, us lay-people trying to second guess trained therapists is a bit sketchy but...
Like I said, she seemed to be VERY agressive with you. I am worried that she is one of the "not so pro-marriage" therapists that are out there. My C and many others believe that there ARE certain personal sacrafices that can be made in the name of marriage while there are many others who feel that somehow marriage is inherently filled with evil and steals the souls of those entered into it...or at least that's what they SEEM to believe.
The hard part for you, and even harder for us, is to judge her motive for telling you these things. Therapy is not exactly a transparent thing. She MAY be trying to prod you into action by just telling you something she KNOWS will get you going...in ANY direction. She may not necessarily think your marriage is not going to work out but as I think I said in the beginning of all this, your MARRIAGE is not the most important issue you need to work on with her and if she insists that it is, well...
I just think there are probably PLENTY of personal issues you could deal with before getting to your "fantasy" world. She may be right, but then again, I bet she'd say the same about me too and I assure you, I am in no fantasy world. I am simply CHOOSING to live the way I do, tolerate the things I do and love my W unconditionally, all things that SOME therapists would have a BIG problem with.
I am NOT saying I think she's bad at all, just curious as to what might have made her react so strongly as to suggest you don't come back unless you saw things her way.
