Hi NN,
When you are contacting the counselor, ask if they are familiar with solution based therapy/ counseling. You might want to mention Divorce Busting, Divorce Remedy. and Michelle Weiner-Davis. The jist of it is that you do not want to rehash past events, rather, you would like to move forward, and impliment changes in behaviors and attitudes that will impact your life and marriage in a possitive way.
Make sure they have couples and marriage counseling designations.
Check the DB book for more info, under selecting a coach or counselor.
The key is "solution based" .

Best of luck and you might be able to call DB office and get recommendations in your area.
Another avenue would be to try New Life Ministries and get a recommendation from them.
They might not be aware of DB.
Holly

Bomb 1/06
D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature.
Divorce final October 31, 2008.
OW looks like bad history. Over.
Still hopeful. Baby steps.
In R with my X.