It sounds like the whole process sucks. I wouldn't worry too much about what you consider your limitations of your patience - we all get sick of waiting around for nothing.
Your point of not wanting another year of baggage is a good one. Part of me wants to stall my W, part of me wants it over with tomorrow so she can really screw her life up and figure out she is going the wrong way. I can't decide how I feel about it. But you weathered this crap for long enough. At some point - you must say "enough is enough!"
Funny how you come full circle - how you now can talk and be amicable. My W and I are starting to get there too. Even got a letter saying she was finally done blaming me for everything. But seeing this side of your W just continues to cast doubt in your mind... That there is still a chance. There still is a chance, but she just refuses to see it.
I hope you get the house thing worked out. It will take stress off of you -especially at the holidays which will be difficult enough.
Quote: I have found a renewed sense of myself and even my STBX has commented how I am strong and a different man. In reality I am what I once was and need to remember not to lose that man again.
Amen to that bigtime. This is so key. The self discovery and journey we go through to get to the person we really love. We didn't choose to start the journey. We were "kicked" off the bus and forced to. And while I want my M to work out, I know there was a reason for me to do this - to learn what makes me tick and gain my renewed sense of self. You said it!!! Don't ever lose that person you've become.
Hang in there. I hope the housing thing has a quick resolution. May God Bless you and your family.
