F4 Hang in there. There is hope but quit trying to control (like the other man comment)... All you want is agreement on a plan of action with W - leave all of the peripherals alone.
She agreed to counseling - go start interviewing them now. She wants to sell the house - it is moving forward ... just leave it alone.
No more fights - just give her the details and let her chew on them. She needs to realize that she need to make decisions now and cannot depend on you for this.
