Landing in this forum after 1.5 years

[Fighting4Wife]

Well it has been forever and a day since I have posted. To many things have gone on and I will try to be brief in my update.

We are still splitting time in the house until it sells. It went on market on Sat. The kids are adjusting very well but I am not. I still cry each time I leave the house for my time away. Sometimes long sometimes short. The money will clear all of our debt and we will leave the marriage debt free. She has found and secured a rental house for hersef and kids and plays it up to them and gets them excited. I myself an waiting until the house sells before I make a decision on buying or renting.

We have had some knock down drag out fights over the past two weeks. I mean reall dousies and I have stayed firm and will not bend. Mostly to due with finacial information and money due to me. She has been diagnose with an ulcer and had a staff infection and some cancer spots removed from her face. Her medical bills are climbing. During our last fight she said she sees me in a different light now, one fixated on money and that, hold on to your chairs, not" very husbandly" in my actions. I immediately called her on this. I asked if I am her Husband. She sadi I was and we are just seperated right now. I was astonished. I broke down cryig to her, and stated that was something I thought I would never hear again. I did ask he to remind me if I am uncaring again.

Let me back up a bit. I had made a proposal for her to sell the house and all then enter into counseling. She has agreed to this. That 13 years were worth trying. I got her to agree we would not be dating during this time and that I would not be incompetition with another man (men). She blew a gasket and said that I am making this all about me. Well I simply replied that I am the repondent not the petitioner.

So in our last fight I stated very loudly and to the point that She can forget counseling, that I will call my attorney and get this D on the fast track. That I am not going to be blamed for the D and the havoc that it has caused. That I want out and is I am going to be portryed as an ass in public by her I will oblige. She changed her tune very quickly and we talked about being more cordial and nice, no matter what.

So that is that. We have set the temporary custody schedule and CS amounts. All that needs to be done is see the judge. We will be entering into couseling in Sept and I hope it can shed life on us both. She did make a statement about counseling how she hoped the counselor could tell her what she needs to do and show her how F'd up she is. This statement in itself shows me she has not reached the point where she can see her actions and the consequences.

I will try and update more often. I just try to hang day by day and with God's love and will I will be fine. For it is truly in his hands.

F4W