F4W - what a great post. Maybe this is the way forward for your and your W at last; I really hope so. IMHO it seems like a great opportunity for you both; as you so rightly say the turmoil of D (especially with K's) is so much more than the effort needed to make a M work. Perhaps now that your W has seen something of what D entails she will come to the right decision.
As you know, my H and I are separated, but I don't see this as a step towards losing the M - I see it as a step towards saving it. And you would not, in fact, be separated - you would just be releasing some of the pressure of financial decisions.
The fact that your W is thinking about your suggestion is very encouraging - I will be praying for you that she sees the wisdom in it.
