Landing in this forum after 1.5 years

[Fighting4Wife]

PS, thank you for the info, I will correlate with Wa. State Laws.

SA, thank you for the prayers.

Update.

We are getting slong better. I have been getting better at seperating the D from my emotions and wishes. D = Business. Nothing more.

I have rolled the dice with a big wager. My S10 and I got back from a regional tournament for baseball. Wife layed down on bed for a minute before leving for the night. I sat close and rubbed her leg for a second. I said I would like to offer something to you. She said what.

What I have doen is offer to continue to sell the house and then take 6 months and see if we are not able to work our issues out in our marriage. That we would rent a house and and apartment = to our current mortgage. Continue to follow the schedule outlined and agreed to. But with the emphasis that we will work on us. Yes it is taking a step backward and looks exactly like seperation. She wanted to debate. She wanted to accuse. She wanted to talk about her hurt and my lack of trust in this process by asking for full disclosure of financial documents. I worked at validating. My offer was based on several revelations and dreams I have been having. God is speaking to me. He is saying to me do not quit, for it is my will at work and my plan.

I asked to talk when she wanted about this. She was not opposed. She made mention that she feels guilty and then remembers the horrible things I have done. These I do not know about except for those she has disclosed. But I see the conflict and the doubt in her. She made mention that a mutual friend is not a strong woman and that is why she has not D her H. I said D is not a sign of strength, it is actually a sign of weakness if it is not warranted, abuse, etc.

So She has left. I made it clear that this is not out of despereation, and I hope she knows that I am capable of going through with the D if she decides. I also stated again that the work it woul take to repair and recreate a positive marriage is minimal compared to the work and dedication it will take from both of us to make D work for our kids.

F4W