F4W, I've been quiet on your sitch since I was pretty hard on you a while ago. I am glad you are getting lots of cyber hugs. I am just as glad you are getting lots of challenges that will really make you think about your thoughts and what is happening in your life. You are explaining yourself very well and I see you stronger now than you have been in the past. We really all need that here, people and friends that will make us be accountable for our actions and not just sit around a campfire singing kumbaya.
Your W does still seem very confused about ending the marriage. Do you remember the post by aynesr about 'taking divorce off the table'? It's been a few months ago, I can put it here if you don't remember it. For me, it's been a few months since H and I had any type of real R talk, and naturally he said then that he was moving out. The day after our talk, I handed him a copy of that article and asked him to read it. We haven't talked R again since then, but something about him has changed, although very subtle. I don't have a clue if it was that article, or my GAL, or anything else in the scope of the world. I just wanted to share this point with you, that IMO it made a change in H, and offer a reminder about that article. It's short, and might make good reading for your W.
You are a very caring person. I wish you all the best in your world.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
