I agree she is being totally honest and reaching out. Here is my thinking and issues.
If I were to say, I am glad you are willing to call of the divorce and stay married. How do I overcome the issue that she is being a martyr and doing something she willingly is uncaplabe of doing? I guess I can answer that myself. I have no control over that and need to continue to lead if she decides to stay by being a loving husband.
The lead I have taken has been little in the past few days because my side job has kept me away for 4 nights. I think it also a good thing because we have had minimal contact and she has had "space" at night.
I agree to stop ILY. My response from now on when asked why I am staying, why I will not let her go will be. "I have already told you my reasons and feelings. I am not keeping you here though I am glad you decide to stay and you choose to do so."
The fact here is I am as confused as she is, from the standpoint I do not truly know what to say or answer her and still be supportive and true to me.
F4W
Through honest giving of my love I will recieve 10 fold in return.
Just because a person does not love you in the way you want, does not mean they do not love you!
