Please remember what I have always told you... You are special, kind, thoughtful, caring, and strong!... IMO, you truly deserve to have your wife see all of these wonderful qualities... To be in a healthy relationship with someone who realizes that you are incredible... And, with someone who is willing to work through problems with you.
I am sure there have been times when you have felt that you could have walked away from your marriage yourself. The difference is you did NOT walk away, and I don't think you would have. F4W, you had the endurance to weather the storm. IMO, that means you are strong, loyal, and honorable. Unfortunately, that also means you have been the one to get hurt when you found out that your wife may not have that same strength. I hope you are realizing more and more what a good person you truly are... You have every right to be proud of who you are.... Continue to hang on to that spirit inside of you because that is your nature. And, it is a special characteristic of yours. So, you need to cherish it.
F4W, you have alot of dignity, strength, and character and I know you will get through this. Although it may not look like it now, you will come out of this an even better person. Time does heal all wounds if you let it heal.
We all care for you, F4W!... Thinking of you, -Kim
